Some Progress

virgilio-dias-universitc3a1ria-2011-o-s-t-60-x-60Last time I moved I swore never again.  Now, three weeks into the process of downsizing, I am remembering just why I was so vehement eighteen years ago.  When those that know about these things claim that it is one of the most stressful thing that anyone can undertake they are definitely not joking.  I think I have psoriasis on my eczema although if someone was to argue that it was the other way round I wouldn’t contend against it.

Actually, I have been comparatively fortunate.  I got a buyer the first day the house was on the market and she now has a first time buyer, so within a fortnight a reasonably short chain is in place.  However, I think her buyer is a game player, so chickens are not yet being counted.  The Estate agents are projecting a move around the beginning of May but again I’ll believe it when it happens.  Anyway, when I look at all that has to be done between now and then, the beginning of May 2019 seems like a better option.  The Bears vacillate between excitement and trepidation, with the exception of Jolyon Bear, who controls the purse strings; he just looks distraught all the time.  In fact, as long as they have their sofa, a nice warm fire and a plate of marmalade sandwiches they will be all right wherever they end up.

All this has done my reading progress no good at all.  When I ought to be concentrating on the book in front of me, I find my mind wandering off into room measurements and lists of people who will have to be contacted and worst of all, how to get rid of everything that I can’t take.  So, the only book I’ve finished these last two weeks has been Donna Tartt’s The Secret History for book group and that was a re-read.  We had an interesting discussion about that, however.  Most of us have teaching backgrounds of one sort or another and so as well as the parallels being drawn between what happens in the novel and the conventions of Greek drama we also had much to say about the responsibilities of teachers for their pupils, whatever age those pupils might be.  Julian Morrow came in for some harsh words.  At least this gave me an excuse not to talk about my friend’s husband’s new book when we met on Thursday.  Fortunately, we had so much business to get through on the agenda that the subject didn’t come up, but thanks for all your advice.

I have spent the weekend making lists of what has to be done and when. I always feel better when I have a list. I’m hoping that this means I can get back to more of a routine and start reading and commenting again.  I think my own posting will still be sporadic but I’ll pop in here every now and again and keep you updated.


13 thoughts on “Some Progress

  1. BookerTalk February 18, 2018 / 5:19 pm

    After 18 years in one place you will undoubtedly have collected a lot of ‘stuff’. All of us underestimate just how much time it takes to do the sorting out of what moves with you – and then we rush it in the end and get exhausted. The only feasible way is to do a bit at a time starting now.


    • Café Society February 18, 2018 / 5:25 pm

      My plan is to move everything that isn’t coming with me into the garage, one room at a time, as you say, starting now, and then as soon as we exchange contracts get a house clearing company in to take the lot. The furniture I don’t want is going to a young friend who is setting up house for the first time and who has nothing and, after finding the money for the down payment, no means of buying anything. She and her partner are coming on moving day (whenever it proves to be) with their own van.

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      • Kazen February 19, 2018 / 8:56 am

        I have been lucky enough to receive furniture this way when I first moved to Japan. It’s so appreciated – know that the pieces will be well used and well loved! Best of luck with preparing for the move.


      • BookerTalk February 20, 2018 / 10:37 pm

        Wel done for finding a well deserving home for the stuff you don’t want. I’m trying hard to get rid of some things but no-one wants to buy them even at rock bottom prices….Everyone seems to want everything new


  2. heavenali February 18, 2018 / 5:44 pm

    Moving is stressful and after 18 it will be a wrench. Fingers crossed it is smooth sailing and you are able to move in May. The sorting of things always seems daunting, but just set small goals. One cupboard or drawer dealt with can be hugely satisfying and bit by bit it gets done. Good luck.


  3. A Life in Books February 18, 2018 / 6:22 pm

    Good luck with all that moving entails. We’ve been in this house for 30 years and only contemplated moving when running the reviews section of a magazine from our spare room became untenable. I had my basement converted into an office which I’m very happy with now but I’m sure was actully more stressful than moving. I hope your chain holds good and strong.


  4. Lisa February 18, 2018 / 8:22 pm

    It does sound like things have come together, and hopefully they will work out that way in the end. I find moving so overwhelming that I procrastinate terribly, mostly by reading the books that I should be packing. And I’ve only moved from apartments, not from a home, after many years.


  5. smithereens February 19, 2018 / 1:56 pm

    Good luck with the real estate chain business! We were deep in this kind of stressful operations last year and I was exhausted and stressed out all. the. time.. I had troubles sleeping and I obstinately refused vacations (thinking I would need all the days off to move and sort out stuff and oversee renovations), which in retrospect didn’t really help. So do take care of yourself, one day at a time!


  6. kaggsysbookishramblings February 19, 2018 / 2:03 pm

    Good luck! I hope the chain hangs together and the Bears don’t get too stressed by it all….


  7. helen February 20, 2018 / 10:00 am

    I think downsizing is probably the most stressful of all the stressful variants of moving, but it sounds as if you have an excellent system with the garage and you have things well in hand, even if it mightn’t feel that way.

    If the first-time buyer does turn out to be a game-player then just set the Bears on him/her… 🙂


  8. Liz February 21, 2018 / 9:33 am

    Moving is very stressful, but it can be remarkably useful too, forcing us to confront all that stuff hidden away and forgotten. Lists are good & very pleased you escaped any problems with that other matter! 🙂


  9. mlegan April 30, 2018 / 12:17 am

    I do hope you survived the move!


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